2. Add grief

There are two installs, and they are not the same thing. Adding grief to a server gives that server its slash commands and management tools. Authorizing it as a user app puts grief in your DMs and group chats, which is what most of the social and AI commands need. You can do one or both.

When the invite opens, pick the server, keep the permissions checked, and finish the captcha. If grief does not appear in the member list afterwards, the install was cancelled rather than completed — run it again.